Obsessed, fixated, whatever you want to call it. It’s a word used to imply a lack of control, of an inability to prioritise. Taking things too far. Concentrating on one thing to the cost of all others.
Some see it as a typically male trait. It’s definitely something I’ve seen a lot more of since I started working in Sports. Incredibly successful men who love what they do and concentrate on playing to the exclusion of most other things. I can’t say I’ve met one athlete who seems to have paid any negative price for their obsession. It seems the more obsessed they are with their work the better they get at what they do.
It probably seems ridiculous for me to talk about professional athletes when all you might be trying to achieve right now is being able to stand up on your own or walk around your block. But I think it’s really worth considering their mind-set whilst embarking on your own recovery.
When you’ve been unwell for a long time it’s easy to focus on illness. Other people around you will be used to focussing on it too. The Medical Profession is always going to be focussed in your physical issues. It’s extremely likely that without meaning to you’ve become Obsessed with illness. Thinking about it, talking about it, living it as your day-to-day reality. We’ve all been there-and the problem is that the cycle doesn’t break on its own. We need to start thinking in a different way.
If you can turn it completely on its head and become Obsessed with Wellness, with feeling well and strong and capable. If every thought in your head and word from your mouth is taking you to a more powerful feeling place. If you just stop doing the things that keep you in the circumstances you feel trapped in right now. If you decide that enough is enough and you are going to get well and stay well no matter what. That’s when you start finally seeing results.
It means a total overhaul of every single thought and habit you have right now. Start by screening what you read, what you watch on TV, the types of conversations you have with friends. Especially the ones you’ve met on online forums and support groups. No more talking about illness or symptoms. No more sympathising with each other. Replacing it all with new and empowering books and programmes and conversations. With uplifting and inspiring things that make the world a more exciting place to be a part of. Not some scary, dark , depressing place to hide from.
It’s a real shock to the system at first, and i don’t think you should have to do it alone. There are lots of great CBT and NLP courses to help with the change of mind-set part. The tv and books might even be easier to avoid than change at first. The online world possibly just switched off for an extended period. Many people believe 21 days is enough time to change a belief or thought pattern. If you’re anything like I was then you’ve been housebound for years so 21 days of change isn’t going to be a huge inconvenience.
So why not give it a go? 21 days of thinking about wellness and strength, 21 days of new possibilities, new conversations, new thoughts. Just because you can’t physically remove yourself from an environment or situation, doesn’t mean your world can’t change. And I know it works, I know it makes all the difference, it’s how I started to turn my own situation around. If I could do it for you I would, but I can’t. So please humour me and try it. You never know, this could be the start of your own Life After.